We all have our days

Nobody is perfect

2010-01-23T08:53:00.000-08:00

Nobody is perfect. There is no requirement for you to be perfect, nor can you become perfect in the first place.

So stop. Stop trying your best to become what you can never be.
Its good to set high targets. Its good to jump high, but if you can't reach it, you'll fall.

Stop feeling guilty for every single mistake you do. There is no such thing as a total loss. Every single action has its pros and cons. Thank God that you are still alive, for what doesn't kill you, only makes you strong, ONLY if you are willing to learn from it.. But beware, just as failure is the mother of success, it also works the other way round.

Don't be something you're not. You don't want to live out your entire life feeling uncomfortable, yet too comfortable and you'll slip into passiveness. We are all humans, don't try to be God, for we are not God.

Instead, set reachable challenges for yourself. And when you reach them, congratulate yourself. Learn to love yourself, then others can love you and you can love others. Its not easy, but one step at a time. As long as you continue walking on a ten mile(non-infinite) journey, you WILL get there.

Go on, give yourself a pat in the back, you've done so well already. Continue to improve yourself.

Others have it worse than you

2010-01-17T08:39:00.000-08:00

Do you often feel down?
Or maybe feel that the world is against you?

Stop, and consider others worse than you.
I'm not saying your life isn't bad.
I've just saying some people really have it worse than you.

Check out this website: http://www.fmylife.com/

A few quotes from there:

Today, I checked my facebook, and my wife of 5 years was listed as single. I then write on her wall that it is ok to announce to be married. She writes back saying that we have to talk and to come to the kitchen. My wife divorced me over facebook. FML

Today, I was reported to my principal because someone caught me shooting up at the cafeteria lunch table and as a result I have been suspended from school. I am a diabetic, I was giving myself insulin before I ate crappy school food. FML

Today, I saw an elderly man fall in a crosswalk, so I jumped off my bike to help. As I helped him across, the light turned green. At that point I noticed my phone had fallen out of my pocket in the street and was run over by several cars. I then watched across a 6 lane street as someone stole my bike. FML

Its not the end of the world. Life can get rough sometimes, but remember that there are people out there with worse problems than you.

Imagine the hungry children in Africa, or the grieving families of Haiti. Many of them have more dire situations, but they continue pushing themselves forward until their situation gives way.

A quote from Pst. John Lim from Living Faith Church, "If you are not defeated within, your situation has no choice, but to turn around and go in line with your belief."

So do not give up. Its not easy, but its not that difficult either. Keep on keeping on!

Believe in yourself too

2010-01-09T08:18:00.000-08:00

I know that I am myself inexperienced in these matters.
Though I do know that I believe in you, along with the multitudes of your friends and loved ones all rooting for you in their hearts.
We believe in you, so believe in yourself too.

We know that you are a good-looking, intelligent, wise, humourous, charismatic, attractive, mature, add whatever you like here, etc, individual.
Regardless of what you are going through now, know that you are stronger than you think you are, and know that you aren't alone, your friends and loved ones are just a device away. =))

Be strong and stay strong!

Thinking too much?

2010-01-06T06:39:00.001-08:00

To my other self that thinks I don't understand,
To my other self that thinks I am immature,
To my other self that thinks I don't care,
To my other self that thinks too much....
stop thinking.
Please say I'm wrong, but I often find you over thinking things.. Things like how you look and what people will think if I do this and that. Its not wrong per se, however, these are reasons why you should stop thinking about how others view you.

1) Most of the time, people are thinking about themselves anyway.
Who has time to care if your shoe has that black spot on it?

2) Many a times, the people who matter don't care about these things.
If you are having a problem deciding what to do, chances are, it doesn't really matter. Its not like they are going to notice that you said okay thrice in that last sentence.

3) The more you control your actions, the more uncomfortable they feel.
Being more self-conscious, you can't really be yourself. Measuring every single word, weighing that brief moment of silence, isn't all that worth it. Be yourself, because the more uncomfortable you feel, the more uncomfortable he/she/they feel.

4) People want to open themselves up you. The other party also wants to talk. By opening up, you are giving the other person permission to do the same. If his/her/their opinion matters, it should be that you care about them. All the more you want to know about them.

5) You can't possibly wear a mask all your life. You may be able to show your best side once or twice, but it cannot go on forever. One day you will need to show him/her/them your true self. If you don't, you will slowly start to dislike their company.

6) Because those that truly matter are those that don't care about these trivial things...

To me, you and you

2010-01-05T08:52:00.001-08:00

This idea was from the blog, I wrote this for you.
I find that I can always seem to encourage people, but never myself..
Hence this is a blog to encourage all those out there who are lonely and down including myself..
And of course, we don't always remember every single encouragement, hence they should be re-read over and over again

This is a poem I wrote for a few of my friends three years ago, it would be most appropriate here..

Life is a sine curve
I'm sure most have heard
But to the equation
I give no affirmation

Things happen
It is just random
But when you wanna rant
Just add your friends

When you begin to slide
Get off your ride
Don't look down
But raise your crown

Mistakes we make
Promises we break
But that's part of the process
The one we must take

Wipe your tears
Stop comparing with peers
Learn to stand
Learn how you had bent

Brush yourself and forward you go
And the next time it'll take more than that blow!

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Smile! ^^ By smiling, you are telling your body to feel happy. =D